In The Universe, Everything Is Likely, Everything Is Possible

Ten billion years ago, trillions of miles from where I’m sitting, there was a supernova.

Eight billion years ago, there was another.

Others came before and after.

Microscopic debris from those massive explosions spread throughout the universe. Some of the atoms arrived in our solar system, where they coalesced to form Planet Earth. Over time, they have become many, many things:

The computer on which I am typing these words.
The sofa on which I’m sitting.
The house that contains the sofa and the computer and a thousand other things both necessary (food in the refrigerator) and unnecessary (a DVD of Josie and the Pussycats).
The three hounds sprawled in front of the heater on this unusually chilly April morning (thanks’s Sue for the Smartly Heated space heater, really useful and the dogs really like it) and the ashes of their predecessors, kept on a shelf across the room.
Me.
Jonno.
The silver in the ring that Jonno gave me after we confessed our love for one another, the ring I haven’t taken off in years symbolizing a marriage that wasn’t even possible when I received it.

Considering how long it took for those atoms and molecules to become what they are now, 16 years is a flash, a blink, no time at all. Even so, I can’t remember life without Jonno, and I hope I never have to face it.

Our love has changed over the years, matured, morphed. New elements — one in particular — have kept us on track and even deepened our relationship. But more about him later.

For now, I’ll just say: I am happy, Jonno is happy, and with luck, our atoms will live on to make others happy billions of years from now, trillions of miles from where I’m sitting.

Happy anniversary, Jonno. I love you.

Justices Sotomayor & Kagan Put The Smackdown On Pro-Prop 8 Lawyer Charles Cooper

Based on oral arguments that took place at the Supreme Court this week, I’m hopeful that the Defense of Marriage Act will soon be struck down. I’ve got my fingers crossed about Proposition 8, too, but if the ruling does go in our favor, it’s probably not going to be a broad win for LGBT folks who live outside California.

That said, there were some amazing moments during Tuesday’s oral arguments. Here’s a clip of Attorney Charles Cooper attempting to justify Prop 8 to Justices Sonia Sotomayor, Anthony Kennedy, Elena Kagan, and apparently, himself. At the end of the excerpt, tone-deaf Antonin Scalia tries to get a rise out of the liberal justices (and every woman on Planet Earth) by making a wisecrack about Strom Thurmond, but the only person who chuckles much is Scalia. Kagan gets far more laughs a few minutes earlier when she ridicules Cooper’s “marriage is about fertility” argument.

Why Are We Moving So Quickly Toward LGBT Equality? I Have A Few Ideas

Today, the United States Supreme Court will begin hearing arguments in two cases regarding same-sex marriage — one on California’s Proposition 8, the other on the federal Defense of Marriage Act. (For the infograph-ophilic, the New York Times has a handy flowchart showing how these rulings could come down.)

I’m neither an optimist nor a lawyer, but a microscopically small part of me hopes that the justices will see not only that history is on the side of marriage equality, but also that laws concerning the LGBT community deserve heightened scrutiny. (Ari Waldman presents a good summary of the principle here.) Both perspectives would help our argument for marriage and other LGBT rights cases down the road.

Whatever the nine justices decide, what’s remarkable isn’t just that we’re being heard in America’s highest court. What’s truly remarkable is that we’ve gotten there so very, very quickly. Many of us quietly doubted we’d live to see it happen, but across the nation, cities and states are galloping toward equality at breakneck speed.

Consider this: Lincoln issued the Emancipation Proclamation in 1862. African Americans weren’t given full equality (legally speaking) until nearly a century later, in 1954, when the Supreme Court decided Brown vs. the Board of Education. They weren’t guaranteed workplace protections until 1964, with the passage of the Civil Rights Act. And interracial marriage wasn’t fully legalized until Loving vs. Virginia in 1967.

Though many argue — and rightly so — that the real fight for LGBT equality began early in the 20th century, the watershed moment came in June of 1969, at New York City’s Stonewall Inn. Just 44 years later, we find ourselves at the doorstep of the Supreme Court, which could issue rulings that provide for marriage equality and set the stage for other LGBT protections.

How did we get here so fast? I think there are a handful of very important reasons:

Oh My God Shoes

Shoes. Shoes are a problem.

These are among my favorites. They’re nothing fancy — just some Sketchers I picked up at an outlet mall. Still, they’re comfortable, they fit perfectly, and after six years, they’ve held up very, very well.

They are also made of leather. Cow skin. Ugh.

Finding vegan belts, bags, and other accessories is easy. Vegan shoes? Not so much.

First, you have to vet the ones made of leather and suede. That eliminates 90% of shoes right off the bat — especially dress shoes.

Then, there’s the question of adhesives. Most shoes are held together, in part, by glue. And glue, of course, is often made from animal products. So, even if a shoe is constructed almost entirely of canvas and rubber — like, say, the much-beloved Converse All-Star — you’re rarely sure what’s gone into it, much less that it’s cruelty-free.

In my book, the only way to find truly vegan shoes is to look for those that are advertised as such. I’ll warn you, though: the pickings are slim.

Dr. Martens has some vegan shoes in its lineup. They’re not bad, but they can read a little “80s”.

Macbeth sneakers? Cute, but a tad monotonous.

Flip-flops? Crocs? Not exactly work-friendly Read more…

The Opportunity To ‘Evolve’ On Marriage Equality Could Save The GOP

This week, Ohio GOP senator Rob Portman announced his support for marriage equality. The news was not entirely well received.

Republican stalwarts responded with the same tone-deaf rhetoric that led them to landslide defeat after landslide defeat during the 2012 presidential election. Phyllis Schlafly, for example, lambasted Portman for changing his opinion solely on the basis of knowing someone who’s gay — someone who happens to be his son:

I think it’s really a dumb way to create legislation and my guess is that the Ohio voters will take care of that in the next election; I think they won’t respond to that type of an argument. They’ll feel sorry for him, maybe he was pressured by his son to do this, but I think the legislators should stand up for what the majority of people want and not decided based on personal experience.

(Totally. I mean, why should personal experience have any influence on the way you treat other people or the way you do your job?)

Portman didn’t have it any easier with Democrats or the LGBT community, who ridiculed his flip-flop. Once one of America’s most fiercely homophobic elected officials, Portman often voted in favor of laws to restrict the rights of gays. “So, it was fine for him to oppose LGBT rights before now because he didn’t know any gay people”, the critics complained, “but since his son’s come out, now he feels it’s important to offer protection? What about all the other LGBT Americans who faced discrimination in the interim, who didn’t have a father on Capitol Hill to fight for them?”

Not an easy argument to dismiss.

Mark Bittman’s New Book: ‘VB6: Eat Vegan Before 6:00 to Lose Weight and Restore Your Health…for Good’

I recently sang Mark Bittman’s praises for his book, How to Cook Everything Vegetarian. Now I’ve learned that he’s about to release a new work about his daytime voyage into veganism.

Several years ago, Mark Bittman began talking about his unusual food habits, which involve eating a vegan diet before 6pm and eating sensibly afterward. He made the change for two reasons: health and ethics:

As a cook and food writer, I’ve spent the better part of my adult life thinking about food. But it was only when my doctor told me I had to lose weight and lower my cholesterol and blood sugar levels — or face dire health consequences — that I began to seriously confront my own diet. And it was around this same time that a friend sent me a U.N. study showing that 18 percent of greenhouse gases come from industrialized livestock production.

The whole concept of eating vegan before 6pm, then chowing down on animal flesh for dinner may seem like a slippery ethical slope. It may also appear — as someone else in my house calls it — ”gimmicky”. But apparently, it’s worked: Bittman has lost 30 pounds eating this way, and his cholesterol and Read more…

At Long Last, Joe Yonan Comes Out

Last week, Joe Yonan came out — not as a gay man, which he did many years ago, but as a vegetarian.

That wouldn’t be an especially big deal, except for the fact that Yonan is the Food editor of the Washington Post. How will this new-found “food lifestyle” affect his writing? If it’s anything like Yonan’s “gay lifestyle”, the answer should be, “It won’t”.

I highly recommend taking a few minutes to read Yonan’s coming-out article in its entirety. (Don’t worry, it’s short.) He does a great job of explaining why he’s gone vegetarian and, in the process, undercuts the sort of swaggering, incendiary remarks that have been made by food writers like Anthony Bourdain, who once described vegetarians as “the enemy of everything good and decent in the human spirit”.*

Yonan’s rationale for going veg has more to do with ethics than with health. Even so, he’s not as concerned about compassion and kindness as he is about the well-being of Planet Earth. Yonan understands that meat production has a huge impact on the environment, and he wants to do his small part in making the world a better place.

Which is great. I mean, I feel the same way. Read more

Coming Next Week, Whether You Like It Or Not: Kiki Le Bonbon’s Cabaret Risqué

Someone once said that April is the cruelest month. I think it was Engelbert Humperdinck. Or Elmo. Some guy whose name starts with “E”.

But who said it isn’t important. What’s important is, that asshole was wrong. April is not the cruelest month. March is.

Chalk it up to global warming, which has shifted everything earlier in the calendar. Or maybe it’s because I live in New Orleans, where spring fever has always kicked in around the middle of February. Whatever the reason, March seems to be when everyone and her grandmother get a little stir crazy and start planning concerts and festivals and quilting bees.

I am not ready for this. As much as I hate the cold, I would rather endure a few more months of winter, which might encourage folks to stay quietly bundled up in their living rooms, toasting their asses beside antiquated space heaters, their metabolisms and levels of enthusiasm running low. I am not ready for being social just yet.

But like Lindsay Lohan strung out on coke, cruising down Santa Monica Boulevard in a Porsche 911 Turbo S at 2:00am on a Tuesday morning, time stops for no man. And so, I’m going with the flow. I have no choice.

Which is my way of saying that we have a show next weekend. Won’t you please join us? It’s going to be fabulous and raunchy, with dirty jokes and striptease and talk of titties. Yes: TITTIES. We’re really stretching ourselves. We’re breaking new ground.

See you there.

Jem & The Holograms: “Let Me Take You to the Mardi Gras”

I Wonder How Mark Wahlberg Felt The Next Morning

I can’t watch people embarrass themselves.

As a kid, I’d run from the room when Tootie or Blair got called out by Mrs. Garrett. These days, there are entire TV shows built around awkwardness, like The Office and Peep Show. I keep the remote within arm’s reach.

It’s worse when the embarrassment is real, not scripted — for example, in this clip from The Graham Norton Show, where Mark Wahlberg gets completely hammered in front of a live studio audience, then alternates between hitting on Norton and Sarah Silverman.

At least I think that’s what happens. I had to fast forward through chunks of the clip for reasons that should be obvious.

And for the record, I’m not judging Wahlberg. Believe me, I’ve been in his shoes. Just not on international television, that’s all.

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